Who does garden projects?
Certainly not people who work full-time, home make, and raise children on their own…
But with a weekend sans children last week, I tackled my most important project, the reason for buying a house in the first place – the first of my garden beds.
Hammering in the star pickets was not a problem, but then, the chicken wire started twisting and recoiling, slashing me across the face. Heart break, or rather, chicken wire rage, when the length I had cut was a couple of inches too short. So out came the star pickets and started again. And digging the trench in heavy clay soils – not really sure what I thought I was doing, but had some inspired genius notion of preventing bandicoots from digging under the fence. Except I dug the soil out on the wrong side, and the chicken wire just bent in on itself..duuuhh. Swearing a little more frequently and loudly than usual, I abandoned the fencing project for another time. I’m pretty sure it looked a little like a toddler tantrum.
I had other jobs I needed to get on with: handwashing clothes, vacuuming, present wrapping, baking for teachers’ Christmas presents, and so on and so on. Why oh why did I think I could add a ‘major infrastructure project’ to my list of jobs and still manage to get it all done???
Because I’m a woman, and I think I can do it all.
Except when I compare myself to much more worthy female DIYers like my friend Kirsty. She is the type of person who when asked how her weekend was, answers with ‘oh I put up a deck’. Once I described my vision of creating rooms in my open plan living area, and she stated that we could put up a stud wall one weekend. We???!
But you see, as Kirsty explains it, she is the handy woman because her partner is in IT. Enough said. She taught me that I don’t need to wait for a man to rescue my home maintenance and renovations dramas, or to ‘complete me’. I need to be enough on my own, and then whatever he brings to the table, he brings.
That may be, but I can tell you, if a tradie comes knocking at my door, he would have me at hello.