I need to vent today, so please excuse any ensuing ramble.
I am not a parent any more, but a ‘co-parent’. What this means is that nobody is parenting my children, as I cannot make any long-term decisions regarding their welfare without his acquiescence / veto. And I cannot talk to the man.
I have just found out that their other ‘co-parent’ is moving into a [$2.9 million] share house with 2 mates, and he has the children almost half the time. I may be overprotective, but I am not happy with this arrangement, not just for the oh my god what could happen overtones, but for what this will mean in terms of any boundary setting such as ‘bed-times’, if there are grown men who work in the mining industry (please ignore overgeneralisations) playing loud music, drinking beer, etc, on weekends.
I also found out that on the children’s recent holiday with their ‘co-parent’ to the co-parent’s parents’ house, one of the grandparents mixed an inch of white wine into my (6 year old) daughter’s juice and didn’t tell her until afterwards.
And I can’t do a thing about it legally. As the orders he won against me state that he has 100% decision-making over their daily lives while they are in his “care”.
Yet I cannot exercise my duty of care for my children which I cannot switch on and off according to ‘access days’ and my heart is breaking.